You are Beautiful, Yes, You ARE!

Post by Raven Chitalo for the Kind Kindred series.


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You are Beautiful, Yes, You ARE!

You.

Are.

Beautiful.

That’s all.

OK, so it should be all, but if you’re like 75% of people, it can’t be all, because you’ve already started listing out your go-to list of reasons why you’re not really beautiful. That list that you pull out, whenever you get a compliment or are in front of a mirror. That list you practically alphabetize in your head when you try on clothes.

If I walked up to you in the grocery store & told you that you were beautiful, chances are high that you wouldn’t just say thank you. (Which, by the way, is the proper way to accept a compliment gracefully- you do deserve it.) You’d balk & hem & haw around it. But, you are beautiful, whether you can see and accept it or not.

I am 32 years old and wear a size 18 (Yes, I just admitted my real age & size out loud- and I didn’t spontaneously combust). I’ve dealt with body issues for most of my life, but over the last 10 years, I’ve grown through acceptance into really loving my body. I wish I was healthier (I have a voracious sweet tooth and I have never met a bread I didn’t like, but I still eat lots of veggies and healthy food too) but I am not frantically trying to lose those x pounds to feel better. I still have my days when I feel less than fabulous, but I have come through all that self hatred into more loving and caring.

I’m pregnant right now and being pregnant has opened up my eyes about body image all over again. Here I am on the joyous, yet tumultuous, body journey that pregnancy is. And the message boards and websites are full of women hating their weight gain and tips to avoid getting too round, etc. I’m not out to gain a lot of weight- that wouldn’t be healthy for me or my little one- but, I have been on bump watch, constantly waiting for that visual confirmation that life really is growing in my belly. At 26 weeks, my moon is finally waxing. I’m thrilled with the roundness & fullness!

My attention to my belly has brought my attention back to body image and awareness and I’ve been thinking about women who look at their body with sadness and hurt and anger. Not necessarily just pregnant women (although there far too many of them) but all women who don’t love their bodies. Women (and men) who sometimes can’t even look at their own body because it’s too painful.

I want to encourage you to love your body. To remember that it is the temple of your soul and the medium through which you experience this beautiful life. That despite our societal pressures around weight and negativity, that your body is beautiful. That YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. I know there may be some of you who can’t even say that to yourself right now. I really, really hope that you’ll at least try, though. You deserve so much more than hurting and hating and struggling to change.

You.

Are.

Beautiful.

Undoubtedly, completely, brilliantly, beautiful. Just as you are, in this very moment.

Raven Chitalo believes in the healing magic of laughter and the power of women to make great changes in our own lives and therefore in the world. At Discovering Your Dance, she guides women across the bridge from stuck to fabulous, by reminding you of your own inner beauty, worth, and power, especially when you’re going through dramatic life transitions. She will help you to reclaim the joy and passion that you still have deep within to release your inner fabulosity.

To help you claim and acknowledge your beauty, I’ve developed a simple 21-day e-course to develop a more loving relationship with your body. It’s not a weight loss guide or about changing a single thing about you. It’s about learning to love yourself EXACTLY as you are, every day. We’ll stretch into accepting and respecting these beautiful bodies of ours together. It starts March 1, you can learn more here.

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