Wish kids came with a manual

Post by Laurainne Marshall for the Kind Kindred series.

image courtesy of Christine Szeto on Flickr

When we brought our first born, Hayley, home I still remember the moment we put her into her little bassinet, sat down, and then said to each other “Well what do we do now?” That phase has continued along our journey and now she is 16 and our son is 11.

I remember looking at both of them filled with awe at what Graham and I had created, but I also remember that intense fear as well: Oh my Goodness what do we do, how do we make sure we don’t break these kids?

Truth is kids don’t come with a magic manual and most stuff you hope that you are doing right. And with every difficult stage….guess what????? There is another one just around the corner.

So I am sharing what I have learned over the last 16 years.

Treat them like they are intelligent
I had a friend once say to us: Your daughter is far too mature for her age. Well I took it as a compliment. We have always treated both our kids like they are intelligent mature individuals. So I guess when things like watching someone close to us succumb to cancer came round, they were able to come to us and we discussed things maturely.

This one was tough but both our kids know that there are boundaries in the house. When they do something wrong there are consequence and we stick to it.

That beautiful concept of love
Although I have made mistakes along the way, both my kids always know they are loved.

Living your passion
Hayley said something on her Instagram the other day along the lines of “I have learned in the Marshall household and from my parents that if you are passionate about something then you go for it – regardless of how hard it is.” I am 44 and a working musician, music is my passion and on some weekends I am off living the other dream. I copped a lot of flack for it, including many skeptics telling me that I was too old and that I was a bad parent for leaving my kids on Saturday nights with their Grandmother to pursue what I love. Guess what? Proof is in the pudding and seeing Hayley write this consolidated what I already knew.

I am certainly not telling you that I get everything right – because I don’t. Hubby and I often ask: “What do we do now?” I guess sticking to these principles above has helped us along the way to come up with an answer.

Parenting isn’t an easy gig, constantly changing and evolving, but….I guess if a kid is loved, secure and living in an environment that exudes love as well, surely that little family unit can conquer the world.

Namaste lovelies


Laurainne Marshall (AKA LO) lives in Sydney, Australia with her 2 kids, Hayley and Jamie and her soul mate of nearly 25 years Graham. Their furbaby is a beautiful Labradoodle named Amber. Laurainne has many roles, Wife, Mother, Teacher and Musician. She believes that life is to be lived at full throttle and is deeply spiritual. Her motto in life “Grab life and run”. She also believes one person can make a difference in this world and hopes that by sharing her life experiences, she might inspire a few people along the way.

Related Posts

If you enjoyed this, you might also enjoy these