Twists and Turns

Most of us have some sort of a life plan and it starts when we are little. We live out this imagined life in our daily lives…dream about it at night. I was going to go to college, live with a room-mate who would be my best friend, marry Davy Jones from the Monkees and we would have a few baby girls. These were the things I knew for sure and I was consumed with this imaginary life.

Surprisingly (?), not one of these things happened. I went to work instead of college and I never lived with a room-mate; but I did manage to see Davy Jones in concert once before he died. Later, after I had my only child, a son, I did go to college for a year but didn’t finish.

To paraphrase the Rolling Stones song, it’s funny how life tends to give us what we need, but not necessarily what we want.

My son grew up, I got married and divorced. I was never the person who thought it was my child’s responsibility to give me a grandchild. To be honest, being a single mom was hard, and to this day I don’t think I was all that good at it. I’m convinced that there is no love purer and more intense than that of a mom’s love; but most days were spent just getting by. I often worked three jobs, seven days a week. There wasn’t a lot of money or time; and when there was more of each, he was a teenager and then a young adult…dealing with the issues that come with that. Add to that the fact that I was just figuring out who I was and wasn’t jumping up and down to do it all over again. I didn’t care to age myself, change diapers, or be that person who shows random people pictures of my grandkids.

Fast forward five years or so and my son and his then girlfriend (who I didn’t know very well) sent me a positive pregnancy test for Christmas. I was happy, of course, because who isn’t happy when there’s a new baby coming? She also had a two-year old daughter who I didn’t know at all, but now it’s serious and we all better get cozy!

Three and a half years later, that yet-to-be born baby is turning 3. My oldest granddaughter, who I barely knew existed, is turning 6, and I have an 18-month-old granddaughter. These kids, who I could not have imagined five years ago, have taught me that our hearts have more capacity for love than we can possibly imagine. I believe that they, along with my son and DIL, have taught me true and unconditional love.

We can’t always get what we want, or can we? I eventually went to college (graduating at age 52). I never so much as met Davy Jones, but I am surrounded with a lot of little monkeys. I live with True Love, who is my best friend; and we have three little girls that we are fortunate to spend a lot of time with…bringing and pulling all the love, swirling it all around us in the most beautiful chaos I’ve ever known.

Oh, and I’m happy to show you pictures of my granddaughters at any time, day or night!

Lynn Devasto
Lynn "Pippy" DeVasto is an NAHA Level 1 Certified Aromatherapist specializing in custom crafted therapeutic blends. She can be found on all things social @pippysbotanicals as well as on her website. When not blending oils, she can be found at the beach with her granddaughters looking for the most beautifully imperfect shells.

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