The Path of Radical Acceptance

Post by Jo Anna Rothman.


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The Path of Radical Acceptance

Ponder this: What if everything about you was ok? Every thought. Every feeling. Every push. Every struggle. What if it was all ok? What if nothing was wrong? What if there were nothing, not ever that needed to change? What if?

Do your defenses go up? Think that it’s crap, because of course there are things that need to be changed? What about those angry parts? Or all that Frustration? How about those lovely patterns that sabotage and devastate? And those places where you are stuck? They are all supposed to just stay that way forever? Those questions bounced around my noggin when the “What if” first made it’s self known.

But then I noticed the fighting. All the subtle, digs. The pushing down. Away. Trying to block out what I decided was not ok. Because I didn’t like what it was doing. I didn’t want that part of me to be around. So do whatever I was supposed to do with it…listen to it, talk to it, try to get it to go on a long vacation. I wanted it gone. I wanted it to be different than it was. Than I was. Despite my hard work, nothing seemed to change. The fighting still was…and this mythical change I desired was taking place.

So I followed the “What if” train a little further down the tracks. I placed a moratorium on change…at least change that was forced. Change that came from a place of not good enough. Every time I felt or thought or did something that I could get all judgy about, I chose love instead. I chose to make that part ok. My anger was ok. My apathy was ok. My stuckness…ok. Neediness…ok. Every bit of me was just fine. And you know what happened? Magic. Love. Unconditional, electrically unifying love.

When that smack talking voice inside of us is told to change…its position is validated. We are telling a part that doesn’t think it is good enough, that it isn’t. That it needs to change. That we need to change. It gets the message that it is right and gets louder. We continue to work our process…acting like the good, consciously evolved beings we hope to be. We do whatever it takes to change. And then, and then…nothing happens. The voice keeps on chirping it’s song and we continue to want it to be different than it is.

The goal, perhaps, is not change but unification. Union. Through radical acceptance of who we are. Magic really does happens when we stop fighting the what is. When it becomes ok that there are parts of us that are sad. Angry. Hurt. Mean. When mistakes stop being a crime. When wrong turns become part of the journey. When every bit of us is allowed to be, wholeness happens. And in that state, something so much better than change takes place. We step into the fullness of ourselves…which, it turns out, is what we’ve looking for all along.

I’m Jo Anna. Jo Anna Rothman, MA if you are being fancy. I’m a Wizadress of love. Mistress of change.

Conjurer of Electric Creative Wholeness. I am here to invite and inspire you to live the best human experience ever. I connect folks to their soul, their purpose, their absolute and amazing joy. I coach. I write. I facilitate the amazing Receiving Project.  Most of all, I have a damn good time!

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