The Game of Worth

Post by Jo Anna Rothman.

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The Game of Worth

For a long while, I played a game. A game of worthiness. Where I remind myself over and over that my worth is inherent. Where I share sweet words of inspiration… reminding others of their good. Seems lovely, right? Maybe it sounds familiar. This game, however, is a dangerous one to play. It’s full of up hill battles and illusionary smokescreens. There is no winning. There is only an endless conveyer belt of convincing, without the sweet knowing of the truth.

For me, this game is over. Done! I will know longer put out platitudes about how good and worthy you are…. I am… we are. There will be no convincing. Or trying. Or hoping. From me, from now on…you will get love. I will see your amazing magic and I will treat you accordingly.

Here’s the deal:

Playing this game… telling people they are worthy… trying to affirm in yourself, is a big wild distraction from the crackling, vibrant YOU. The more we try and boost someone out of something we reinforce the lie that they are indeed in it…and stuck. With each bit of convincing… yes even saying you’re good; worthy, loved, whatever… we reinforce that part that thinks otherwise. The truth doesn’t need to be argued with. It needs to be felt. It needs to be lived.

That part of you that is singing the blues, wondering if it is good enough to have what it wants… is not really looking for a pep talk. It’s looking for love. It’s looking for you. And when it gets a rousing speech, it is only temporarily satisfied. When we step away, it goes right back to the same old story…crying to get our attention wanting to know what would happen if it only knew how wonderful it really was. So we repeat ourselves. Over and over, wishing it could just learn the lesson.

The real party happens when we step into our ourselves and experience the limitless freedom that is the essence of who we are. Trying to cajole, sweet talk, process and fix doesn’t work…going to a place where we live the truth of who are totally does. We can be aware of the parts of ourselves that hurt. We do not have to buy into their belief system. We can love them without engaging them. We don’t have to play the part of wounded healer… trying to see the truth of who we are through the eyes of those we are trying to serve. It’s time to shine a light into the wild path of magic that leads to an incredible human experience.

Let’s live as we are electrically, creatively whole. Let’s see it, breathe it, live it in very action we take ever. We feel our power by doing and creating and being in this wild world. What matters is what you desire and your willingness to love yourself through the process of creating it. That’s it. If questioning voices got a rousing heap of love, no matter what it thinks, then it would stop. It would join the team and re-enter the land of our oneness.

Bottom line… I don’t care if you think you are worthy or not… you are here. Now. You are here to live. To create. To love. Step out of the story and into you… it’s a lot more fun.

Jo Anna Rothman, MA is an intuitive coach and facilitator of The Receiving Project. She revels in assisting people in falling in love with their lives. She is committed to living a life full of pleasure, purpose and enthusiasm. And perhaps most important, she knows the secret to the perfect s’more.

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