Thanks Mum

When I was growing up I was an exceptionally bratty kid. I always knew best. My Mum and Dad were outdated as far as I was concerned and I always knew better than them. My teenage years were the worst. I remember my Mum always coming and seeing if I was OK. I would maintain no contact – everything was kept to myself.

Have to say…I was so silly.

My teenage years were not easy. I found it hard to get my head around the accepted practices of being a girl. My first boyfriend – a total life learning curve. Let me apologize to you now for being so awful.

It wasn’t until I became a mum of a teenage girl that I realized just how awful I was. But more than that, how silly I was to always keep things in. I know – it comes back to bite us.

I look at my mum now, almost 80, and wonder where the time has gone. If only I could turn back the clock.

So here is what I tell my daughter (age 16). The words according to me, your mum, the one who seems so outdated to you.

  1. Don’t hold everything in. Rest on people, adults know stuff and guess what? We made some of the same mistakes you are making so how bout you learn from them.
  2. Regardless of what goes on in your life…stuff…and I mean awful stuff, passes and you come out the other end. All those times I thought the world was going to end and that the awful stuff I was going through would never end – it did and I came out the other end.
  3. Most of all – be happy. I was such a miserable teenager. Not sure why really, maybe the hormones. Find what makes you happy and do that.

And here is what I say to my mum (in hindsight of course):

Thanks mum for all those times you asked how I was. You knew I wasn’t traveling well, but every time you showed me you loved me it made everything OK. I am so sorry for all those times I turned my back on you. You did know better and I should have listened. As I see you get older it makes me sad to think I wasted all that time angry with you for loving me.

Go give your mums a hug!

Laurainne Marshall (AKA Lo) lives in Sydney, Australia with her 2 kids, Hayley and Jamie, and her soul mate of over 30 years, Graham. Their furbaby is a beautiful Groodle  named Jarrah.
Laurainne has many roles - Wife, Mother, Teacher and Musician. She believes that life is to be lived at full throttle and is deeply spiritual. Her motto is “Grab life and run.” She also believes one person can make a difference in this world and hopes that by sharing her life experiences, she might inspire a few people along the way.
When she is not teaching through the week, you can find Lo belting out 80s hits in her band Soundproofed. You can follow the band on Facebook.

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