Self Love

Post by Renee Avard for the Kind Kindred series.

art card by Renee Avard Furlow & sent to me!

The path to self love is one of the most difficult aspects of life, as well as the most rewarding. From our humble beginnings, we as children were taught to not be so ‘selfish’ and therefore, we grew up thinking anything that we do for ourselves alone is wrong.

Self love is actually one of the most selfless acts you can do. If you are feeling well taken care of, then every single person around you will feel that positive energy. The quote goes something like ‘If Momma ain’t happy, no one is happy’ and that is the absolute truth. When you are a head of household, whether it is you alone, or even with someone, you hold a lot of the emotional aspects of the family in the palm of your hands. How you behave rubs off on each member of the household, even pets. (And believe me, I am speaking from first-hand experience!)

So, the question I get a lot: HOW do I practice self love? Ladies and Gentleman. Sit, down, now. Be prepared.


Not only is it the most evasive of acts of relevance for expression of a person, it is very important to survival and hard to attain, but not completely impossible.

There are a few steps to this regime. First, you have to sit down and KNOW, 100% right now, commit yourselves to fall in love with you. You have to be on your mind a lot. You have to wonder whatcha up to and what you look like with that lopsided tee on again or what song makes you react. You know those fuzzies?


Establish a routine. Again, this is from experience, so I know what I am about to tell you is very much the truth.

A good first step? Wake up a bit earlier than you have to. If you work outside of the home and have a lot to do before you leave, etc, set your alarm for even just 15 minutes early. Grab your journal and find a comfortable space and do some meditation on what you want your day to look like. Put your intentions out into the Universe. Once you do that, you alleviate any worry as what you need will always come to you, in due time, and for your highest good. Use your journal to record any thoughts or messages you receive while you are in this moment of stillness. And, if you think that you cannot possibly be someone who can receive messages, I implore you to try anyway. You will be surprised at what comes to you.

The next step is one of my most favorite and most important, in my humble opinion. Take your time when showering and getting ready! I used to view all that went into getting ready for the day or bed, the whole ordeal, as a chore and something that just needed to be rushed through. So one of the best and most healthy things I have ever done was to s-l-o-w down. I take my time now when I am getting ready. I give attention to everything from washing my hair to brushing my teeth. It’s all wonderful for self-care and surprisingly, when I make time for myself in this way, I actually give myself more time later because I am not trying to find a way to ‘feel better.’ I took the time getting ready and enjoyed getting clean, so then the rest of the day or night just seems to fall into place. It’s a really great and wonderful feeling!

My point is this – take extra time out for yourself. It is not selfish, it is necessary because when you are in tip top shape, then you are in a better place to help others and yourself. And that is the best part of all of this.

If you don’t do it for anyone else’s benefit, do it for your own.

Published author and eclectic Earth-Based Spiritualist, Renee Avard-Furlow,“Unique-tivity Guide”,focuses on bringing out the unique and creative side each person already has inside them. By offering guidance to restore harmony she shows all how can allow their Star inside to lighten Life outside. She brings in and imparts wisdom and whimsy leading an amazing truth: we are ALL worth catching. 
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