Post by Lynn DeVasto for the Kind Kindred series.

photo taken by Lynn DeVasto

I used to want to be perfect. As a child, I thought that if I were perfect, my parents wouldn’t fight. I wouldn’t be lonely. As a young adult, I thought that if I were perfect, I would be loved, and I could avoid being abused. Of course, I was told it wasn’t abuse, it was just me, pushing too hard…not being enough, not doing the right things, if only I would learn. And learn I did…somehow I got away and moved on.

As I got older, I thought if I were perfect, I would (of course) have the perfect life. If I were married, if I had a child, if I made a certain dollar figure, if I had a house, if I could travel, if I were a size 6. And then…I had all those things. And life fell apart. The reasons are numerous, but I think life fell apart for me because I needed to see that perfection is not all it’s cracked up to be.

Perfection is simply a pretty shell. Most people love conch shells, because, well, they are lovely. But while they may be beautiful on the outside, all shiny and polished…on the inside, it’s layer upon swirly layer, with little baby shells stuck inside and layers and layers of sand baked. Not so pretty, in the perfect kind of world. For me, though, I collect the ones that have been broken open and you can see the depths of what’s inside, you can see where life has sanded down the rough edges, and left the remnants of those little shells that are stuck in there and won’t go away. Give me the open views, give me the brokenness, give me the gritty sand, give me the real.

It’s only when the shell is broken that the true core is able to come through. We’re all beautiful in our brokenness, if you know how to look.

To healthy and happy,

Lynn DeVasto is the owner of Live and Love Your Life, which helps you deal with the trifecta of Food, Fitness and Feelings. She has taken her experience of losing 90 pounds and her certifications in Personal Training, Holistic Wellness Coaching, Sports Nutrition and Barre to create a premium coaching experience. This allows you manage your health in a way that works for you instead of against you. Click HERE to get her juicy tips to Live and Love Your Life!

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