Parenting never came with a manual

When Hubby and I decided to have kids, I bought books. We had lots of books – books about what to expect when I was expecting, books to tell me what happens when they get sick, even books about what music to play to help them sleep.

I was pretty damn happy to think by the time I got them out of nappies and feeding themselves, that I had in fact not broken them. I was on my way to raising two prim

As they got older, Hubby and I never shied away from parenting. When things got messy, we got in the middle of it. We loved them and protected them. When my kids were in trouble they knew Mum would be up at that school standing her ground. If I am not a voice for my kids, then who can be? Right?

Then we started the teenage years – with our daughter. By far the hardest part. Those terrible nappies were smooth sailing compared to this. Now she is 17 and guess what? I am struggling more than I ever have. You see my job is to protect, to stop her from making mistakes, to be there in the middle. Is that the right thing, though????

I am realizing that at 17 she can make her own decisions and her own mistakes. Walking away a little bit to let her do this has been the hardest thing I ever had to do. The maternal instinct of standing right in the middle and soaking up all the crappy stuff, well I have had to put that aside.

I know we have raised them to be a good people, to love and be respectful. Both our kids are pretty damn awesome people. I guess they have to make mistakes to learn. Understanding this and stepping away has been by far my hardest parenting moment.

To my kids I say, “I love you more than life itself. You are my everything. No matter what you do, I will always love and be there to pick up the pieces. But it’s time for me to let you fly…and making mistakes is part of that.”

Gosh, I miss those terrible nappies! Who would have thought?  🙂

Namaste lovelies ‘til next time

Laurainne Marshall (AKA Lo) lives in Sydney, Australia with her 2 kids, Hayley and Jamie, and her soul mate of over 30 years, Graham. Their furbaby is a beautiful Groodle  named Jarrah.
Laurainne has many roles - Wife, Mother, Teacher and Musician. She believes that life is to be lived at full throttle and is deeply spiritual. Her motto is “Grab life and run.” She also believes one person can make a difference in this world and hopes that by sharing her life experiences, she might inspire a few people along the way.
When she is not teaching through the week, you can find Lo belting out 80s hits in her band Soundproofed. You can follow the band on Facebook.

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