No More Same Old, Same Old

Post by Jo Anna Rothman.

No More Same Old, Same Old

I was eavesdropping. Listening in on these two obviously amazing women talk about work. I was eavesdropping, but 4 or 5 years ago, I could have been the one talking. Talking about feeling stuck in a crazy job…again. Talking about how she knew she was there for a reason. She had to be. She was there to help this one. Shine the light on that one. Learn something deep and meaningful. Despite the boss who didn’t understand. Despite the commute long ass commute. Despite the mean co-worker. She kept saying how while she knew she was supposed to be there, it felt like she was stuck learning the same lesson over and over…obviously not getting it right. I remember thinking the same thing. Desperately wondering. Why was I here? Again? What was I missing? Tears came to her eyes…her friend patted her hand. They both sighed.

Sometimes we look around at where we are and try to find the reason for being there. The reason to make it all make sense. We start to spin stories of being in the stuck of a job, a relationship, a creative slump for a grander purpose…that we are mere puppets of the divine. We think we were put in the chaos to serve others or learn that painful lesson one more freaking time. And maybe that it is. But I suspect not. ??If we find ourselves in a craptastic situation one more time, perhaps is so that we can finally stop it. Ourselves. That we can finally say no. That we can say, “I’m done”. Pattern over. When we find ourselves in the dreadful repetition of old ways, it’s not because we haven’t learned the lesson. It’s so we can learn that only we can make the necessary changes in our lives. That we can be the creator of the game. It’s our chance to stand up and say…”this isn’t what I want. This isn’t what I deserve. I’m choosing to do different. To react differently than ever before. I am committed to something new.”

You know when things got better for me? When I stopped. When I said, “no more”. When I realized I was walking into the same trap over and over…and I turned directions. For me, I started working for myself. I did what I loved instead of finding myself in jobs that did not serve me. I stopped justifying my existence by what I did for others despite my misery (I had a little martyr thing going on). Hell, I stopped justifying my existence at all. I began to do as was in my pleasure.

I’m not pretending it is easy. It may, for you, take lots of planning. Or inner work. Or every bit of strength you can muster. But the same old, same old doesn’t have to play out in your life. Maybe the only lesson that is left to learn is that you can create something new. Maybe today is the time to start.


I’m Jo Anna. Jo Anna Rothman, MA if you are being fancy. I’m a Wizardess of love. Mistress of change. Conjurer of Electric Creative Wholeness.

I am here to invite and inspire you to live the best human experience ever. I connect folks to their soul, their purpose, their absolute and amazing joy. I coach. I write. I facilitate the amazing Receiving Project.  Most of all, I have a damn good time!

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