Magic Beans

Post by Lynn DeVasto for the Kind Kindred series.

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I’m often asked if I sell the magic beans to weight loss. And no, I don’t sell them. I do, however, know where you can find them, and I’m going to help you find them too.

Are you ready? First we need to do a little work, because otherwise, it won’t do you any good to have the answers if you don’t know the questions.

My BIG question for you is: “Why do you eat?”

I eat because:
     ~ I’m bored
     ~ I’m sad
     ~ I’m lonely
     ~ I’m hurt
     ~ I’m with friends or family
     ~ I’m celebrating
     ~ I’m hungry (?)
     ~ It’s breakfast, lunch or dinner time
     ~ I’m sitting on my sofa
     ~ I’m busy and who knows when I may be able to eat again

This is just a partial list, only what I can come up with at the moment, but you get the idea. Only one of these is valid, and it’s the hunger. But thinking about that, I can convince myself I’m hungry 90% of the time, even if I’ve just eaten. It’s the nasty tricks of the brain with a food addict person, so when I think I’m hungry, I really need to check in with my body and not just my brain.

That leaves the rest of the reasons to eat. In every one of them, the eating all stems from our feelings. We live in a society where are feelings are to be feared, and we will do almost anything to avoid them. Yes, even happiness. In my former life (ahem, marriage)…I was told I was annoying when I was happy. As I was a people pleaser and didn’t want to be annoying, I did my best to not be too happy. Which, by the way, is easy to do when I set my mind to it! My way to avoid my feelings was to eat myself into a semi-comatose state, in which I really don’t care much about anything.

What happens when instead of self medicating, we feel our feelings? Well, the world doesn’t end, although I feel like it might. I get so anxious, I want to jump out of my skin, I cry, sometimes I have to talk it out, sometimes I need to exercise it out, sleep it off, write it down. Sometimes I just need to sit, feel and let it pass. Every feeling and every situation is different. But the underlying answer is to allow yourself to feel it. I know, I know, this sucks. But beyond the suckdom is the knowledge that no matter how badly you feel in the moment, it will pass. And you will be okay…no, better than okay, you’ll be a rock star. Because when you allow yourself the honor of feeling your feelings, you are honoring yourself, your body and your life.

To healthy and happy,

Lynn DeVasto is the owner of Live and Love Your Life, which helps you deal with the trifecta of Food, Fitness and Feelings. She has taken her experience of losing 90 pounds and her certifications in Personal Training, Holistic Wellness Coaching, Sports Nutrition and Barre to create a premium coaching experience. This allows you manage your health in a way that works for you instead of against you. Click HERE to get her juicy tips to Live and Love Your Life!

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