Looking in the Mirror & Getting All Intimate with Yourself

Guest post by Sophie Gold.

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Suigintou appears by "Cookie dolls" Rebeca

Looking in the Mirror and Getting All Intimate with Yourself

Today I am going to be covering four points:

1. Finding out who you are now

2. Finding out if you are being true to yourself

3. Knowing your strengths and weaknesses

4. Accepting who you are

Let us begin. I know that from personal experience when I was on my journey of discovery that I was hiding who I was, I had created a persona that I called the Sophie Gold persona.

It was all superficial. I never allowed myself to show any emotion, I never felt relaxed. I never felt as if I could be me because Sophie Gold was strong, but sometimes I was weak and I did not want people to know the “other” me. The truth was that I had not accepted the death of my parents, the abuse, and the feelings of loneliness. I was scared that if I accepted them, then I would crumble and be a failure.

Most people walk around not accepting who they are, or what they have gone through because it hurts too much, because they do not want to appear vulnerable, because they are afraid that people will judge them, because they feel lost on this journey of life and they do not want to admit it because then they will feel that life is not worth living.

You deserve more than just being a shell, than just being a zombie floating from day to day, week to week, year to year ignoring yourself. You have to look in the mirror and get familiar with who you are, what you look like, how you feel, your pain and your happiness – everything.

I have asked a lot of people over the years “Who are you?” Some have been able to give me a well-rehearsed answer, some people have looked down at the ground and said “I don’t know,” and some have said “I am trying to find out.”

Looking in the mirror is all about facing the facts and seeing who you are, seeing that true reflection of what you look like.

I have also found from personal experience and from talking to a lot of people that most of us are like chameleons, adapting to our surroundings. I saw a movie once about a woman who had had seven different boyfriends over ten years. Each time, as she adapted and changed to stay in the relationship, she took on what he liked so that he would love her. It never worked out because eventually she would crack and say “I have to leave; I am not happy.” And why wasn’t she happy? Well, she was not being true to herself; she was not doing what she enjoyed. I think that movie was Runaway Bride.

It is also important to know your strengths and weaknesses, what you are good at and what you are not so good at. If you know what your weaknesses are, you can improve them and if you know what your strengths are, you can use them to your advantage.
Remember that it is all about self-belief: knowing who you are and what you are capable of. If you only knew how amazing you are, you would not have so much self-loathing for yourself; you would be out doing what you love, what makes you feel good.

You can hide from the mirror for years, and you can ignore who you are and change for everyone you meet, but will you be happy? And if you say “Yes,” for how long will you truly be happy?

Life is all about love: love of yourself, loving what you are doing, and love for others but it all starts with loving yourself. Then, when you love yourself, you will want to do what you love because you won’t accept just living a mediocre life. When you are happy because you love yourself and you love what you do, you are then full enough to love others and so affect their life in a positive way.

Practical Steps

Here is my step-by-step plan how you can know yourself, and love yourself, what you do and others:

1. Record a five minute video describing yourself, your personality, what you like and don’t like, your strengths and weaknesses.

2. Playback the five minute video and ask yourself “Am I being honest?”

3. Get a paper and create four columns. Write in the four boxes: Relationships/Health/Business and Money/ Family

4. I would like you to say which areas you are being true to yourself and which areas you are not being true to yourself and list the reasons why

5. Then I want you to create a Plan of Action stating in those areas that you are not being true to yourself how you are going to change it

6. Then I want you to record a new five minute video after 30 days

7. Playback the five minute video and see if there is a difference from the first one

Sophie Gold is the creator of Wealthy Women Inc. that helps women look great, feel amazing, have joyful and fulfilling relationships and become rich. Sophie has recently put together a retreat in costa Rica called Reinventing and Redefining You that helps you to start living your life your way and start charging what you are worth. Sophie blogs regularly at SophieGold.com you can follow Sophie on twitter by clicking here @sophiegold

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