A Letter to My Younger Self

Dear Me,

You are now in your awkward teens, your fearful twenties, or perhaps even your whirlwind thirties.

I am 48.

I am writing to let you know that your life will get better. And better. And then, even better than that!

Believe me, I know what you’re going through. I was there. You worry that you don’t fit in, that you don’t belong and that your differences are flaws. But actually they are superpowers.

Know this: You will find your tribe.

You will successfully create the career of your dreams. (Here’s a hint: It’s a delightful combination of all of your favorite childhood passions.) You will be loved, and love, intensely. You’ll raise two amazing children to adulthood. You’ll live in a cozy, comfortable home in the country where you played as a child.

Your closest friends are as rebellious, wild and unconventional as you are – and together you revel in that wildness! They love you for who you really are.

Your extended family is known for laughing often, cooking gourmet food and adopting people into the fold. You even get along with your Dad. Yes, really!

Your business associates are tattooed, Goddess-worshiping, kind-hearted healers and artists – much like you.

You honestly and truly will not care what others think of you. I know it’s hard to believe, you sweet young people-pleaser; but as your authentic self you are thriving.

Your days and nights are full of magic.

True, none of this was instantaneous. You’ll work hard, suffer and be plagued by doubts. You’ll fall down and get up again, bruised and scraped. Yet all of your dedication is worthwhile.

You know that little voice that always told you that you wanted to be older and wiser, that life would be the most fun later on? It’s true. You’re aging backwards. There’s no need for nostalgia when your best years keep getting better.

So, hang on, dear self. Keep doing your daily spiritual practice. Keep writing, even when you don’t think it’s good enough. Keep exploring the depths of personal growth.

Above all, keep dreaming.

Be thankful. Gratitude is a powerful force.

Be kind – it’s your nature. Treating others well is not a sign of weakness.

Know that all of your experiences are moving you forward toward a place of joy, abundance and life-long learning.

The best part? Our life right now, in our forties, is SO much fun! Yes, there are still challenges along the way; yet we are well-equipped to meet them with grace and equanimity.

I send you bright blessings, much hope and eternal love.


Nikki Starcat Shields is an author, writing coach and leader of transformational writing retreats. She's also a licensed Pagan priestess. She invites you to a process of unfolding creativity. The world needs your unique wisdom - now is the time to finally take your inspired book idea and bring it forth into the world. Learn more at NikkiStarcatShields.com.

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