just bloom

photo by Jenny Ingalls Nelson

Raise your hand if you’ve gotten sucked into the comparison trap? Yes, my hand is raised right now!

Does any of this sound familiar?

  • She’s prettier than I am.
  • She’s thinner than I am.
  • She’s smarter than I am.
  • She totally has her shit together.

Yeah, guilty as charged!

So, what do we do when we’re tempted to fall into the comparison trap?

Make a gratitude list. It’s corny, it’s an Oprah-ism, and it’s on the verge of being played out, but it’s actually pretty helpful. When I’m looking at someone and thinking anything (or everything!) on that list above, if I can stop myself in that moment and recall 2-3 things I’m grateful for, it really does shift my perspective.

Make a brag list. Yeah, I know, this one feels a little icky. I get it, but play along for a moment! I’m not telling you to start bragging about yourself to everyone you meet, but what if you had a reference point you could go back to, as needed. What if you could look at a list of things you’re really proud of yourself for achieving? I’m betting it might serve as a bit of a mood lifter.

Look inside. OK, this one’s REALLY icky, but if you’ve made it this far, stay with me. I’ve learned that what we notice most in others is something we need to look at in ourselves. For example, when the “she’s thinner” or “she’s prettier” crap comes up for me, I need to check in with my self-image and figure out why it’s not doing so great in this moment. Lesson learned: it’s ALWAYS about me.

So, with that, I’ll invite you to raise your hand with me. Look inside. Recognize some gratitude and awesomeness, and stop competing. Just BLOOM.

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Thank you for STAYING on this journey with me!
?, Lara


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