I’m better than you

Post by Claire McCarthy for the Love for Love series.

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That might be a bold statement, but it’s true.

If there is something you want, regardless of what it is, chances are you are competing with someone or something to accomplish it.

Competition is healthy when it drives us to do better, push further and conquer more. When we can look at a co-worker, friend or peer and say, if they can do it, so can I! This is SO possible. This is SO happening. It can give us that extra oomph to complete a task or take on a new project.

As women, we compete for the promotion, for starting position on the team, for the guy, for the opportunity, for the gig. We compete in the boardroom, bedroom, and classroom. We compete even when we don’t even realize we’re competing. We’re sneaky like that, aren’t we?

Competition is also destructive. It can paralyze us as we compare our career, appearance, relationship status, education, possessions (or lack thereof) and fuel fears of inadequacies while wreaking havoc to our self-esteem and self-worth.

It can cause us to change for others in an attempt to fit in a neat package, box or mold. Maybe it’s unattainable perfection in body, mind or relationship that you seek (thank you mainstream media). Whatever it is, it’s exhausting, that keeping up with the girl next door and Jones’ business and a competition that cannot be won.

Fortunately, your fight is not with others, it’s with yourself, and that’s a fight you can win.

There are thousands upon thousands of coaches and entrepreneurs in my field. My competition, if you will. So how do I win? It’s rather simple actually. What separates me from my peers, competitors and colleagues? While we have similar, if not the same, training but no one can be ME and have my unique background, big personality, no BS, straight talking approach, personal style, insight and stories, accompanied by a never-ending stream of sarcasm and quirks. Me, in all my awkward glory.

So what makes you amazing? Not compared to others amazing, just because you’re you amazing. Chances are you’re not the one and only person in your profession or organization or institution that does what you do. But the way you do it…well, that’s a different story baby. Are you known for your diligence, attention to detail, upbeat can do attitude regardless of circumstance? Do you sing when you concentrate? Do you dress for the job you want, not the one you have? Do you smile at strangers and make everyone feel welcome? Are you reliable, innovative, and resourceful? Others might be able to do your job or have your business or career, but no one will ever be you in the way that they do it!

“Always be a first rate version of yourself and not a second rate version of someone else.” – Judy Garland.

I’m better than you…at being me!

You’re better than me…at being you!





In February 2008, I was busy living my version of the American dream when my life changed in the blink of an eye. My daughter Peyton died followed by the almost immediate disintegration of my 10-year marriage and the death of my father just a year later.


I was a wreck. Devastated, out of work, penniless, overweight, depressed and hopeless, facing the toughest 5 years of my life.
I became a Certified Professional Coach and Certified Grief Recovery Specialist to help others navigate life after loss and rebuild their lives. 

I make my home in gorgeous North Scottsdale, AZ with my rock star son. Doing my darndest to raise a young man of integrity while navigating life after death and divorce. 
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