giving up my snowman sweaters

Post by Lynn DeVasto for the Kind Kindred series.

Photo of an ACTUAL snowman sweater, previously worn my Lynn DeVasto, who is currently nominated for Best Personal Trainer in South Jersey!

I lived most of my adult life in an obese body. Then I did what I said I wanted to do for 25 years, I lost the weight. It wasn’t overly difficult once I was on the path, so why did it take me so long? Why did I live all those years with the physical pain? Why did I live with the fact that I went to sleep every night and woke up every morning with thoughts of self hatred? I think the answer to those questions lies in the most important question.

Why did I want to stay obese?

That may seem harsh, who wants to stay in that place? But we have choices, and there are benefits to staying “stuck” in whatever area you stay in. It doesn’t matter what the situation is, it could be a job, a marriage, a home, a geographic area. What matters is the question and your reasons. “Why?”

Why did I want to stay obese?
~ I didn’t to deal with unwanted attention from men
~ I liked being invisible
~ I was comfortable in my big sequined snowman sweaters
~ I didn’t want to have to buy all new clothes
~ I don’t drink (much) or do drugs, so food was a good way to shove down my feelings
~ People liked me because I did everything for them
~ I didn’t have to deal with resentments or anger
~ I didn’t want to hurt anybody
~ I didn’t want to fail

The reality is…every one of these fears came true. I became very uncomfortable. I hurt people. I had to let go of people. I learned what personal power is. I learned what personal responsibility is. I hired a personal stylist and learned what clothes look good on my body (and let go of the snowman sweaters, *sniffle*). I allowed myself to be subject to criticism. I learned that exercise is a little addictive. During that time of losing and maintaining weight, I became a different person. I changed careers. I loved and learned with a family member who was addicted to drugs and discovered what boundaries were. I got divorced and moved into a home that is 20% the size of my old house. I learned that “stuff” isn’t all that important. I have never been happier or more fulfilled. To get there, I had to get uncomfortable.

I continue to do so every day.

What is your “snowman sweater” zone? Why do you stay there?

Lynn DeVasto is the owner of SuperGirl Workout. After losing 90 pounds, she made the decision to help woman be their own super-hero and find their own version of “fit and fearless”, while being true and kind to themselves in the process.
~ Important but boring stuff: She holds certifications in personal training, holistic wellness coaching, sports nutrition and barre.
~ Perhaps unimportant, but fun stuff: Wakes up every morning at 4:30 (ugh), lives with her kitty love (Brady), has yet to meet a potato she doesn’t like (especially if mashed), currently nominated for Best Personal Trainer in South Jersey!

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