Detox your self-talk, part 4

Post by Heather Shafer for the Kind Kindred series.

Hey Amazingly Inspiring Souls!

Welcome to part 4 (and the final in the “Detox Your Self-Talk” series).

If you have been following this series and have engaged in the prompts, I want to deeply acknowledge you. I know this is not fun or easy work, but you showed up anyway. That takes courage.

I thought in the final step of the Detox Your Self-Talk series I would share some practices that can help support you on the path to more empowering self-talk.

  • Choose/continue with a mantra/phrase when you notice your negative self like the ones I shared: Cancel, Cancel, Delete. I know it may feel silly at first, but this is a great way to bring even more awareness to what we are saying to and about ourselves. It’s also great to get another person or two that we really trust to do this for us, too. When they notice negative or self-deprecating self-talk to call you on it by saying one of the mantra words.
  • Ask yourself “Is this statement really true of me?” “Can I find evidence of the opposite?” I know of course it feels true at first, but really look at your statements to and about yourself and ask those questions. I bet you will be surprised at how often you can find evidence of the opposite of what you are saying negatively about yourself. It’s too easy to find circumstances where we have proven that statement about ourselves. It takes a whole other level to look for evidence of the opposite of the negative statement! 
  • Practice some self-kindness. A simple (but not always easy for all of us) practice is: Look at yourself in the mirror, look into your eyes. Name at least 1 thing that you like or appreciate about yourself. This can be physical, mental, spiritual etc. Examples: I appreciate my love of learning, my eyelashes look pretty today, I appreciate my fierce loyalty etc.. I know this can be uncomfortable at first. I encourage you to try it. If you just can’t bring yourself to that space just yet then start with writing it down or saying it to yourself without looking in the mirror. Start wherever it’s the least uncomfortable for you for now. 
  • Make a list of what ways you rocked it, showed up for yourself, stood up for yourself, took care of yourself. This helps to remind us to look for what we are doing good and even great, since we feel we can fill an entire page with what we didn’t do right or how we messed up.
    I would love to know if you have used any of these tips, or if you have any that you go back to again and again. 

Here is to living Inspired, Creative and Empowered

Hi I am Heather Shafer and I am a certified Dream Coach, and Holistic Life Coach, and Inspirationalist! I believe that connecting to our deepest and most creative Selves is critical to living our best, most powerful, lives. My purpose in life is to learn to express myself fully and authentically, and to teach and inspire others to do the same. My website features inspiring stories, tips and ideas to help you live an Inspired, Creative and Empowered life.

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