Choose your happy

photo by Jenny Ingalls Nelson

Kate Courageous, who happens to be joining me on Tuesday September 15th to co-host a free workshop on overwhelm for KOM’s Love Notes recipients, defines courage as feeling afraid, diving in anyway, and transforming. Did you see that 2nd part – the one about diving in anyway? Yeah. That’s the action.

Like courage, happiness is something we choose with our actions. When I think about the times in my life when I was most unhappy, they are also the times when I wasn’t taking action. Well, that’s not necessarily true. I was doing a lot of complaining and talking about the problem, but I was taking no action toward happiness. Not surprisingly, once I dove in, transformation happened.

It’s so tempting to get stuck in the place of negativity – that place where we curl up with our sadness or feel like we deserve better – and never take action. When I look back on a particularly challenging period in my marriage, I clearly remember many weepy conversations with girlfriends, lots of brooding and anger. I curled up with those things for months, and you know what? Nothing good happened. No transformation and certainly no happiness.

What shifted things was action. Talking to my husband. Expressing my feelings. Owning my shit. Viola, transformation, and yes, after some work that we both wanted to do, happiness. Is it easy? No way. Is it worth it? Most definitely. The relationship that we have now (the one that’s a great source of happiness) is a direct result of the action I took.

This week, I invite you to look at places in your life that aren’t the happiest. What actions could you take to increase your happiness? We get this one life, and we have so much more power than we realize. Choose your happy.

Thanks for being on this journey with me.


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