Bullying is something that has been around for a long time. At age 45 I can honestly say that I was often on the brunt end of bullying. In fact, I still am. At a curvaceous size 20 with bright red hair and in the public eye with my music, I often get the people who really want to voice their “concerns” over my size. And guess what I say to that? “I am not compulsory so move along.”

When we came to Australia from Sri Lanka, my parents settled in a suburb that was highly Caucasian. Unfortunately many of the kids at the local primary school did not warm to the color of my skin and I would often come home with bruises on my legs from being pushed over. Funny now that most people love the beautiful bronze skin my kids have.

Bullying seems to have taken on a whole new format these days. With the use social media people can use a public forum to voice their bullying.

Teenage suicide is on the increase with many instances coming about because of bullying. These kids are often pushed into such a corner that they feel they have no place to go and nowhere that is a safe haven away from the bullies.

Being a parent you want your kids to be safe to never have to deal with anything like this. Well I can now say I have.

Let me tell you what I felt when I saw the most horrible nasty post come across my radar. I felt sick, I felt heart broken and mostly I felt useless. My husband and I were at a gig ready to start playing when I saw this post on my social media.

My job as a parent is to keep my kids safe, yes???? Well I felt like I had failed. Now my child did everything right, tagged me in the post, didn’t engage and dealt with the situation in an adult and mature way.

I am lucky we have an exceptional relationship with our kids. Hubby and I have worked hard to be approachable and say to them:  nothing is so bad that you cannot tell us. We will support and help you though anything. SO she came to us. At 1 in the morning we stopped off for some McDonald’s chips and took them home for a family pow wow. We sat and listened. We were both so very angry and hurt for our child.

Bullying is not okay. Bullying is never okay. When a child’s reputation is up for grabs, when there are threatening posts, it is not okay.

I want to raise awareness. Bullies will only win if you let them, if you let them belittle you and take away your self-esteem, if you let them push you into a corner. Go through the right channels, tell someone you trust, get support so you feel loved and worthwhile. Never ever, ever, let the bully win.

As I write this post today it is hard not to get upset, I am a mum who loves her kids. I want to keep them from harm, I want them to be resilient young people and I never want them to have to deal with things like this. Reality is…. they will have to deal with bullying in some shape or form. So keep the communication lines open with your kids. Let them feel that they can tell you anything. But mostly, please raise your kids not to be bullies.


Namaste lovelies



Laurainne Marshall (AKA Lo) lives in Sydney, Australia with her 2 kids, Hayley and Jamie, and her soul mate of over 30 years, Graham. Their furbaby is a beautiful Groodle  named Jarrah.
Laurainne has many roles - Wife, Mother, Teacher and Musician. She believes that life is to be lived at full throttle and is deeply spiritual. Her motto is “Grab life and run.” She also believes one person can make a difference in this world and hopes that by sharing her life experiences, she might inspire a few people along the way.
When she is not teaching through the week, you can find Lo belting out 80s hits in her band Soundproofed. You can follow the band on Facebook.

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