As women, we all have our strengths to build upon as well as our weaknesses for which we compensate. Mostly, we’ve come to the point in our lives where we’re pretty aware of both sides of our human-ness and work well with who we are. But I’ve been noticing a pattern lately, both in myself and other women. I’ve been noticing that our strengths seem to be turning into our Kryptonite.
I would say that my primary strength is that I’m a caregiver which has always worked well for me. I’ve been able to use that strength and hone it, while being cautious that it doesn’t drift into co-dependency. But lately, I’ve been feeling like I don’t have enough to give, feeling taken advantage of while knowing that nobody is taking advantage of me but still feeling like it’s all too much. I have a general feeling of being burnt out and like I’m hanging on by a thread; but it also feels like so much more than ever before. It feels like change.
I’ve seen this in other women, too. They feel that their strengths, the very ones they have put out into the world for years, have taken on a life of their own, completely separate from themselves. Suddenly they feel emotionally and physically exhausted from contributing to the world in the same way, even though have been happily doing this for years. It no longer feels good and as a matter of fact, it actually feels like a burden.
I think this is the way it’s supposed to be. I think we’re meant to step away from ourselves sometimes and evaluate our contributions and our capacities. In the public eye, we ask if people are still relevant. In this same way, are our strengths still relevant? Most likely, we’re now in a different place than we originated. Perhaps our contributions can and should change. It’s not that our strengths have turned into our Kryptonite, it’s that they are no longer relevant in our current lives.
For me, I will always be a caregiver. I love my people so much, and I want to do things for them that make their lives better. This is a global strength of mine that shows up in every area of my life. But now it’s time to look inward and realize that others are also capable of handling their own needs. I feel like my new mantra is “This is not mine to handle.” It’s time for me to look deeper into my own being and see what else is there, and I can’t wait to see what strengths I’ve yet to discover! Will you join me?