For whatever reason, humans often have a belief that struggle is a requirement to get us what we want and where we want to go.
One of the ways we can avoid battling our way through life is by listening to our Soul. I long for the day when Soul Listening is included in the curriculum requirements of our schools.
What’s The Definition of You?
If you spend your life trying to fit into others’ definitions of who you are it can be painful, often leading you to feel stuck, not on purpose and as if you are going nowhere.
To quote a great resource of love and inspiration, my friend’s child when he was 3 1/2 years old, “You aren’t the boss of me.” This statement of independence is hugely powerful – no one else is “the boss of you.”
The key is to determine what your Soul is saying to you and accept it. I know it might take courage to express who you are; but once you allow the knowing that it is your Divine right and purpose to be YOU – it creates a lot of ease. It’s also important to remember not to push your independence too far and refuse to ask for support when needed.
What’s your definition of yourself? What roles are you playing that you love – mother, teacher, author, speaker, etc.? What roles are not serving you – victim, fighter, martyr? What are your values and core beliefs? What does your Soul say your mission and purpose are here in this place at this time? What is your greatest desire, your greatness challenge?
Declaring Your Space
Now that you have a better understanding of who you are on the inside, who are you being in your external world? One of the tools I use often is to take a pause before I speak, so I can have time to observe for myself if what I’m about to say comes from pattern or purpose (my Soul’s definition).
You don’t have to dive into the deep end right away. Start with small steps, like when someone asks what you want, take a moment to really feel into what would make you happy and feed your Soul.
Learn To Fly Your Freak Flag
“I knew you were a little weird when I met you and I liked it,” was the nicest thing someone ever said to me. For centuries “fitting in” was required for survival and safety. Thankfully, the world has changed (and is still changing) and now being different is much more accepted.
Listening to your Soul will give you great guidance for finding the community that not only accepts, but loves and treasures you.
When things get difficult (as they do) and you notice yourself trying to transform because of the judgment of another, take a moment and listen to that part of you that knows the Truth – you are amazing, whole and complete just the way you are.