Conversation – Noun
A talk, especially an informal one, between two or more people, in which news and ideas are exchanged.
When we’re looking at how we act during or even after a conversation with people around us, it is interesting to see if we are fully committed to what we are saying or doing. Are we going to react or respond? It is not always easy to decide to feel and not react. Think about responding to what is happening around you and with the people in the situation. Give time and thought to the next step you will take in this interaction.
I would like to share some of my experiences. It is, of course, easy to read about this subject in books/articles and then write from a distance. It will change when you implement the different approaches yourself and try to walk the talk during the day. I’m genuinely working with what I see and experience – to notice the energy around people, the feeling I get back from them, or the situation we’re in at that moment. It needed time to sink in, and it took time to feel. Then I noticed that my day-to-day life started to change by just watching this. People would retreat from me, or the opposite would happen; and some would approach me more. I got invited to new events, or problems were dumped on me. There was an authentic movement around me. I didn’t do anything different but I observed what was going on. People who used to be in my life started to pull back, even to the point that I became the black sheep in certain situations. Also, it happened the other way around when I got invited to new activities where I felt at home. I’m not sure why this was so, but if I look at it and feel the energy, it makes complete sense. Making a decision to manifest change in our lives is one thing, but it is not always clear how this change will come into our lives. I still consider people dear friends, even if we need to work out a different way of interacting right now. They were there for me and I will always be grateful for their love and support. I guess this part of life is constantly moving. We either go with the flow or against it, but the movement is always there.
We dream about change in our lives and have our own interpretations of what this should look like. Maybe there is an even better situation for us that we haven’t seen yet. I’m happy to go with that, but the thing I do struggle with is the way it makes me feel. I miss the friendships and the activities we used to do together. I had fun most of the time, but at least I knew what would happen, what the dynamics were going to be, what was expected from me. In a way that made me feel safe. This doesn’t mean that I like the change in my life, but I need to give my whole being time to heal and find a balance again.
This change is felt most substantially right in our tummy, in our 2nd chakra. This is where we need to transmute and transform the energy that carries our negative thoughts, emotions, attitudes and beliefs about ourselves, friends and the circumstance we live in. This is also where we feel the different energy happening within our relationships with our friends and in situations that were first so familiar to us. With these changes, our own reactions will create a chain reaction for ourselves and for the others around us. All of this comes from our own habits, beliefs and views. Just remember your genuine desire, for that will lead you to unlimited possibilities.
When we’re working on these changes, it is good to remember why we do this and to make sure that we don’t stop because we feel guilty or scared of the unknown. Somehow, we have seen and experienced that the use of guilt or fear is okay. If you get lost in this energy, you end up hurting yourself. When you’re working on bringing changes into your life, just know that you have all the support with you. If you encounter a difficult moment, you should make sure you stay connected with your own heart. Take a time-out. Look for a place that is peaceful and safe. Place your hands on your abdomen and breathe deeply. After a few breaths, you will already feel that you have become calm. Just take some time to daydream. Take a little trip down memory lane to a place where you have great memories. Recharge yourself with all this positive energy and know that this unlimited source is always there for you to return to. This is your own supply store of happiness, peace and power to get through anything.