We’re so happy to feature a new book giveaway!
Please enjoy this excerpt from “Butter Side Up” by Jane Enright.
There are 2 ways to enter to win a FREE hard copy:
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The winner will be randomly selected on 6/13/22 and announced on our website and social media. *
How often have you heard someone say, “I hate change?” That’s because most people do.
But the reality is, whether we like it or not, life puts us all through changes – some challenging, and many joyful – that shape our day-to-day experiences. Sometimes though, in the blink of an eye, the unthinkable can happen. This begs the question: When the unexpected occurs, how do you successfully navigate change so you can land “butter side up” when life turns the tables?
When Jane survived one terrible year of three life-altering events where she lost everything, she knew she could resist the change and become bitter or roll with the punches and come out the other end stronger and more resilient than before. In this feel-good story that everyone can learn from and relate to, Jane shows us how there can be happiness and joy from unexpected change through “edutainment” for the soul. This isn’t self-help jargon; it’s learning how to successfully navigate big life changes so you can land “butter side up” when life turns the tables.
Excerpt: Gratitude Illuminates The Path: How Being Grateful Can Help You Successfully Navigate Unwanted Change
Recognizing things to be grateful for after an unplanned change filled with loss can be challenging. In general, as human beings we tend to focus our time and energy on what we don’t have, rather than appreciating what we do have. Throw in some rapid unplanned change like a pandemic and feelings of depression, anxiety, and sadness can multiply exponentially. Gratitude is an affirmation of goodness. It is also an underutilized tool that helps us respond to change, especially the unpleasant kind. While we cannot control what happens during times of prolonged uncertainty, we can control our reaction to events. There is always something to be thankful for, even if it is as simple as you are still breathing today, you have food to eat, and you are healthy. Recognize that despite life’s challenges, you can manage how your day will unfold. Our intention creates our reality and gratitude illuminates the path by helping us focus on our blessings and staying positive.
While gratitude does not make you immune to negative feelings, it can make you more resilient because it magnifies positive emotions rather than negative ones. Research has shown gratitude can have a transformative effect on individuals’ lives because people with a more grateful disposition are more likely
to bounce back after times of great adversity. Individuals who practice gratitude are more likely to have a more pro-active coping style and seek out social support in times of need. They are also less likely to develop PTSD and are more likely to grow and see the lessons from challenges in times of stress.
Improved Well Being
Gratitude can also help individuals increase their sense of self-worth. Once you start to recognize the contributions that other people have made to your life and realize that other people see the value in you—you can transform the way you see yourself. In other words, practicing gratitude not only
can help you bounce back faster after stressful situations, it can help you improve your overall mental and physical well-being too. Keeping a gratitude journal and listing things you are grateful for daily, and at random will help you get into the habit of practicing gratitude and being more mindful. Studies show that people who do this feel far less anxious and depressed than people who do not.
American monk David Steindl-Rast said, “It is not happiness that makes us grateful,” but gratefulness that makes us happy.” Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships. Gratitude is a
powerful tool that helps us develop and maintain a positive perspective, encourages us to move forward, not backward, and can help us stay positive while we figure out our next move after unplanned change.
Make a list of simple gratitude statements that you can repeat to yourself when you observe yourself focusing on the negative. Self-talk such as “I am still breathing today,” “I have food to eat,” and I am healthy” can recalibrate your mind when change throws you off balance. You could also start keeping a gratitude journal, listing the things you are grateful for daily. This will get you into the habit of practicing gratitude and being more mindful. Studies show that people who do this feel far less anxious and depressed than people who do not. When this happens, we become better equipped to respond, rather than react to unwanted change, become more resilient, and are able to choose options that are positive and enhance our well being as we navigate unwanted change
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NOTE: You can purchase “Butter Side Up” on Amazon.