I went to a conference this weekend and it was amazing. It was also a lot. A lot of people. A lot of love. A lot of possibility. A lot of learning. A lot of laughing and crying. I was planning to stay inside at lunch and make it a working lunch. Instead, I ate lunch and was drawn outside. Drawn to the beach, drawn to the quiet inside my head after the huge influx of information. Everybody else was inside, chatting and learning from each other; but I decided my need to be with me was more important than doing what everybody else was doing. I spent 10 minutes walking by myself and then spent 10 minutes walking back. My mind started pondering possibilities. I took some time to let them soak in and do some deep breathing.
There was a time when I would have felt guilty, but I didn’t. I felt grateful. Grateful to know that I could trust myself to take the time I need. I could have stayed out of a false sense of obligation, which would have led to resentment. But the reality was that those 20 minutes taken for me did not take away from anybody else; they only added to my gratitude for the day.
There was a time when I would have needed the validation of being with other people, but I didn’t. I felt peaceful, knowing that I was sufficient.
When I came back in, nobody missed me, wondered where I was or thought it was strange that I had left. I almost walked into a woman I met earlier and immediately said, “I want to soak up everything you have to offer.” I’m not usually that direct, but I’m at the point in my life where I realize I’m not getting what I want unless I ask. We talked for another 30 minutes about all the little things she did in her business that led to her success – things that others may dismiss as unnecessary but I think are beautiful.
I felt like I was talking to Future Me. She had exactly what I wanted to create, and she did it in a way that I felt I could and would do as well. What I am realizing is that if you want to meet your future self, you need to create that space for her to enter.
What can you do to set up your future self with her best life? Maybe it’s the best food, the best movement, the best fresh air, the best books, the best quiet. I commit to remembering on a daily basis that she is relying on me to live my best life.