As humans we are obsessed with the newness of most everything, especially and including a brand new year; but then we add in the bonus of a new decade and wowza!! Clearly THIS is when our lives will change, right? The error of this thinking is that if, as you are reading this on January 16, 2020, you may have already fallen short of your New Year’s Resolutions. It’s easy to emotionally throw in the towel until next year. I recently heard that most people give up on their resolutions on the second Friday of the new year. Full disclosure: I didn’t make it that far…my resolution was to take and post a photo each day that I found enchanting (my word of the year, but I digress…). Apparently, I forgot about all the enchantment when I found myself in a tough work situation the 2nd day of January!
Life is like that; it gets in the way. We forget on a day to day basis to go after what we truly desire in life…and we forget how important our goals are when we’re immersed in the minutia of it all.
As a health coach, I speak with women who WANT to make lifestyle changes but then have a tough day. So, as a health coach, I’m going to tell you to power through, right? Ummm, actually, no! What I’m going to tell you is that you get to decide what you want and need to do on a daily basis, and sometimes on a moment by moment basis. There will be some days where you will be spot on nutritionally, and then other days are just completely off kilter. This is the “life” we’re all living, and in the here and now we’re not all living perfect Instagram lives.
Personally I want and need those “off” days…and I’m not only talking about nutrition and exercise. I sometimes need a day where I sit around in my pajamas, don’t shower and watch Netflix all day. The imperfection of those days makes me appreciate the fact that I CAN come back to the version of myself that I choose, be it the next day or the next week. It might be the Tigger kind of bouncing back, or the slo-mo drawn-out, painful kind dragging myself back to center. We’ve all been in these situations because we are a constantly evolving, ever changing versions of ourselves.
The key is to consistently choose to return the version of ourselves that we want to be. For me, right now, that means moderation and some sense of balance (which, by the way, is bullshit – we never have balance!). That means paying attention to my nutrition and really noticing what makes my body happy, which for me, is definitely not low carb. It’s definitely huge salads and potatoes (not necessarily together but I’m not sure I would be opposed to that!). I was in a car accident in October and after months of physical therapy I have finally been cleared to work out. I am approaching my workouts with great caution…aiming for careful consistency, not physical transformation.
Allow yourself to dream big goals; but most importantly, give yourself time and permission to re-center as often as needed. Above all, be sure to live your life. Work hard, find sunshine, stay connected with love and sometimes – eat that chocolate cake.