I find it hard to comprehend now, but most of my life I was trying to be a square peg in a round hole. What I notice about humans is that we spend a lot of time judging ourselves and ignoring the inner knowing of our Soul’s expression.
When we spend so much time trying to fit into someone else’s definition of who we are supposed to be it creates a lot of pain and anger in our lives. The results of being in a repeating loop of “square peg in a round hole” are: feelings of unworthiness, not being seen or heard and “stuck-ness.”
Every human, no matter how unique, wants to feel part of a community and requires support. When I feel like I’m trying to force who I am to fit into the world, I think back to a childhood mantra of love and independence: “You’re not the boss of me.”
There is a great deal of power in that statement. No one else is the “boss of you.” So how do you begin to listen to the truth of who you really are so you can declare it, claim it and receive from it?
Listening to You
Imagine being able to hear the truth of your Soul and act on it? What would that feel like? Would you feel like Superman…able to leap a tall building? Would you spend your time bending over backwards to fit into the “norms” of society? Probably not. To start listening to your Soul, simply pause and tune into your heart and receive the answer to this question: “Why do I get to accept the truth of who I am?”
A few of the questions I love to answer with myself are: “If I knew who I truly was today, how would I express it? What would I say? What would I do?” You will be amazed at the answers these questions generate. Then it is up to you do say and do those things. At first, fear will come up and it is important that you keep telling yourself “It is safe to express who I really am.”
Find Your Pegs
When you are accepting and expressing yourself, you will begin to attract others like you. You will find a community that likes your square peg characteristics and will even praise you for them. This also means that you have to accept that some individuals, even those you hold dear, aren’t going to fully accept your essential nature. Take note, this isn’t because they don’t love you, this is because they are afraid.
Being a square peg in this world means that you are innovative, creative and see the world in a way that others do not. These traits are part of your essential nature and when you accept that you will start experiencing the bliss of that nature.