Fruits and vegetables are good for our bodies. Very few people (including me) would disagree with that statement, yet I find that even these “good” things can also go awry. Let me explain.
A few weeks ago, inspired by Tiffany Han and her 30 day experiment to become a morning person, I decided I wanted to examine my morning routine. My habit had been to have an alarm set for the same time each morning, but when it went off I’d snooze 2-4 times. This isn’t terrible, but it also didn’t feel the greatest; so I decided to set my alarm for 10 minutes earlier than I had been and replace the snoozes with meditation. I committed to having the first hour of my day be technology free. In addition to meditating, this hour would be for slowly getting ready, snuggling cats and generally wandering around the house to get my day started with ease.
It seemed like a great plan, and it was. I enjoyed it and I felt better.
Then I noticed my old friend perfectionism kicking in. I found myself telling a friend that I needed to find a way to arrange my schedule so that I’d be able to do this every morning!
I also decided that I was going to be more conscious about how and where I spend money. Again, seemed like a great plan, and it was. I felt good about being a more conscious consumer and choosing to spend on events instead of things.
Then I realized that I couldn’t even enjoy a simple afternoon of shopping with my girlfriend without judging myself for being a tiny bit frivolous. Not a major first world problem alert, but a problem nonetheless.
I was telling one of my biz besties, Jo Casey, about these things I noticed and she said, “There’s only so much mental broccoli you can eat.” BINGO.
Were all of these plans in my best interest? Absolutely.
Was I giving myself grace and leaving space for joy? Not so much.
I was holding myself to the same old standards of perfection that used to define how I walked the world. Sure, they looked different this time because I was doing things in the interest of my highest self, but the perfectionism showed up anyway.
My lesson, and one that you might need to hear as well, is that fruits and vegetables are great. Morning routines are great. Financial consciousness is great. AND what’s even greater is the ability to be flexible with yourself and treat yourself with kindness.