When you think about taking care of yourself, you probably think about eating healthy foods, moving your body in a way that feels good and getting enough rest. These are all super important, but there’s something missing…what you tell yourself.
What do you tell yourself when you make a mistake?
What do you tell yourself when you don’t get all of your to-dos done?
What do you tell yourself when you forget something important?
What do you tell yourself about who you are?
These are all vitally important pieces of taking care of yourself.
I’m not going to tell you to look in the mirror and tell yourself something that you don’t believe. In my book, that’s not self-kindness – it’s kinda the opposite. What I am going to tell you is to consider what you tell yourself. What stories do you listen to about why you do or don’t do something? If you forget an important work assignment, is it because you’re stupid and forgetful and will never be successful? OR Could it be because you’re stressed and made a simple human mistake? Think about how differently those 2 stories feel. The first one might make your shoulders tight or your stomach ache, while the second one feels more neutral. Sure, it doesn’t feel great that you forgot an assignment, but it DEFINITELY feels worse to beat yourself up about missing the assignment.
Notice what you tell yourself – when you’re feeling happy and good and proud as well as when you’re feeling less confident. What stories are your go to stories? Are they kind? Spend some time this week tuning into them, and if you notice they’re unkind, try to re-frame them in a kinder way.