Being kind is something that we should all strive for. We read about it as children in fairy tales and see it on the internet on a regular basis. We are brought up to be kind to each other and treat others with respect. But it is also something that we can forget about.
The modern world teaches us to be aggressive with work and jobs. We have to be better than the best to have the life we want. But that isn’t necessarily true. We could all use a bit of kindness now and then. Here are 8 effective ways to make kindness a habit.
- Think positivity
Positivity (and negativity) is contagious. How many times have you noticed a co-worker come into work gloomy and down in the dumps? It affects everyone around them, as well as you. As much as you might not realize it, it’s true.
When you feel a bit down, turn around the negative thoughts into something positive. This will not only benefit you but others around you. It might take some practice but it will get much easier the more you do it.
- Make the choice to be kind
Kindness is something that, at the start, has to be practiced. You need to make a conscious choice to be kind. We tend to live so much in the moment that we forget to thank someone or compliment someone. If not, you may miss the opportunity and it might not come up again.
If you find it easy, keep a note next to your mirror for the mornings. Or how about writing a note for when you’re at work? The more you appreciate your surroundings and spread kindness the easier it will become. Before you know it kindness will start to be a part of you.
- Help out your neighbor/friends/family with their chores
You can get a warm fuzzy feeling when you help someone out. Why don’t you help someone out for a few hours? There’s nothing better than doing your good deed for the day. What better way to achieve this than by helping out your family or friend?
So the next time you have some spare time, why not offer your help to someone? You could mow their lawn, dig up some weeds or help out with their washing.
The more you help out, the easier it will become and the more you’ll enjoy doing it. In addition to this you’ll be able to spend more time with your friends and family and build up great relationships.
- Your acts of kindness can be small
Things like opening the door for someone or complimenting someone are such small gestures of kindness; but they can really make a difference to the person on the receiving end. You must admit when you’ve received a compliment about a job you’ve done, it does give a warm fuzzy feeling doesn’t it?
Why not spread this warm feeling the next time someone does something special? Give a waiter a bigger than usual tip if they’ve done a good job. Or how about holding the door for someone? Why not buy a coffee for the person behind you?
- Accept your mistakes and the fact that you will continue to make them
The first thing to consider is that you need to be kind to yourself before you can be kind to others. Knowing that you will make mistakes allows you to accept that you aren’t perfect and is great for your well-being.
Moving on from your own mistakes allows you to move forward. We aren’t machines and we are going to make mistakes at some point in your life. This will help you be more content and your kindness for yourself will shine through.
- Be genuine with yourself and others
We, as human beings, all have it in us to be kind. We are intelligent beings and being kind is a conscious thing. Kindness is connected with being genuine. If you don’t generally mean to be kind, the person on the other end will know it.
Being genuine with yourself and others will aid you when being kind. Honesty with yourself allows you to move on with your own issues and will allow kindness to radiate from you. Kindness makes the world a better place.
- Give something back to your community
There are people in this world who are much worse off than we are. We have fresh water on tap, food to eat and a roof over our head. Some people just don’t have that luxury.
So the next time you have some spare time, why not do some volunteering? You could go to a local nursing home and spend time talking to the elderly. Listen to their stories intently and you will surely brighten up their day.
- Be grateful
Practice gratitude. Gratefulness can often be left behind by our busy lives; but taking a moment to stop and be thankful for what we have can really go a long way.
Not only will it make you happier, but it will help you bond with others around you. It is a small sacrifice on your path to kindness.
Why not spend a few minutes each day thinking about what you’re grateful for? It will help you be more thankful for what you have and spread that to the others around you.
As you can see, there are numerous ways to make kindness a habit. Spreading your positivity and gratitude affects not just you but others around you. Why not start now?