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In The Muppet’s Christmas Carol, Kermit (who played Bob Cratchit) speaks a sentence that is a truth about life: “Life is about meetings and partings; that is the way of it.” In the movie this quote is part of the dialogue between Kermit and his family about the passing of his son, Tiny Tim. Kermit’s voice cracks further in the dialogue when he speaks his son’s name. (If you have not seen this movie my disclaimer would be to have a large box of tissues handy for the steady stream of tears that will be flowing.) Kermit made sure his family knew that Tiny Tim would not be forgotten and neither would this first parting they were experiencing.
“Life is about meetings and partings; that is the way of it.” When we take this quote out of the context it was presented in, it becomes a larger truth that every individual will learn as they grow from infancy through adulthood. Our entire life is made up of meetings and partings. The meetings and partings help shape us, test us, support us, hurt us, encourage and inspire us, make us feel good, or make us sad. They are life long, they are dependent on our chapter in life, and they teach us. There will be many. They will make you and break you, but each meeting and parting will serve a purpose in your life.
I have been reflecting on the meetings and partings in my life recently. The focus of my reflecting has been how the right people are always there exactly when I need them; and what I have a learned, gained or lost through these meetings and partings. I made a list in my journal of what I felt have been my major meetings and partings thus far. Next I made columns for: 1. Why it happened? 2. What did I learn? 3. What did I gain? and 4. What did I lose? Additionally, I designated a page to give gratitude to those who were there at exactly the moment I needed them. I also gave gratitude to those who taught me the harder lessons. This has taken me a while to work through in my head, heart and on paper. While some of the questions were so easily answered, other answers I am faithful will be revealed to me when it is time for me to know. The process at times was challenging but was also extremely clarifying. Furthermore it deepened my level of gratitude for everyone who has touched my life.
Everyone who touches your life is supposed to; they have a purpose. It does not matter if we agree, disagree, understand, or have no clue what their purpose is. I have also learned that sometimes people part from our lives because they need to go in a different direction. It has nothing to do with what I did or did not do. If your paths are supposed to cross again they will. There may also be times when you are used as a sacrificial lamb for the lesson of another. Rest assured there is a lesson in there for you as well. Not every meeting will be wonderful and not every parting will be unhappy.
Meetings and partings will provide your biggest joys, your biggest hurts and everything in between. Be grateful for every single one of them. Some you will remember and some you will not, but the opportunity to learn and grow from all of them is inevitable.
|Taralee received a dual Bachelor’s Degree in Clinical/Counseling Psychology and Criminal Justice from Moravian College. She received her Special Education Teacher certification from DeSales University. Taralee is a NJ certified Teacher of the Handicapped, and has been working in the home and school settings for over 15 years. Taralee is currently President of the Board of Trustees for the Southern Regional New Jersey Early Intervention Collaborative, she is serving in her fourth year as a Board member.
Taralee’s most important job is raising her three creative and inquisitive children (ages 9, 7, and 4) in Southern NJ.
Taralee’s book “100 Things To Do Before You Are 10” was published in April 2014.
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