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Resistance is something that we have all experienced at one point or another in our life. It shows up at various times and with many different faces.
I have experienced resistance in love, with family and in my career and it all follows one simple theme, fear.
But I have also learned that with the most common ways that resistance and fear shows up for me, there is typically a very simple solution that requires minimal effort be able to work around. The biggest challenge is identifying it in the first place and recognizing that there are really no obstacles at all, but only an excuse for not taking control of your life.
Here is a list of the 8 most common excuses that I’ve said myself, and simple tips to help you break through and persevere beyond resistance.
1. I spend my whole work-day on the computer, I don’t want to spend my free time researching on the computer
I’ve been there, done that! Say that sentence now out loud to yourself. Does it sound like a true obstacle, or just an excuse?
I also get tired of staring at a computer screen all day. I worked from home at my corporate job as well, and so I really struggled in identifying a break between working my day job and researching my passionate career.
Instead I found other ways that I could research. I joined groups and classes that would allow me a different setting. I got out and talked to people that were on similar paths as me, and I read a lot.
While I couldn’t completely break free from doing computer research, these methods allowed me to break it up into much more manageable bits of time.
2. I don’t know where to start, so I don’t.
See point #1.
When I was lost and didn’t know where to start, I began just talking to other people that were following their passions. I joined groups and asked anyone that would listen about how they got their start any advice that they would share.
People love helping other people achieve their dreams. Start getting out there and talking to the shop owner, the dog walker or the artist, and take notes on how they started.
3. I’m too scared.
I’ve got good news, and I’ve got bad news.
The good news is; everyone is scared of something. The bad news is, there will always be something to scare you.
What I learned, is the fear that I had that was holding me back, was also my driving force. The thing that you are most afraid of, is the same thing that you are supposed to do.
Look into the fear / risk factor and ask yourself what you have to lose by making the change, and what you have to lose by not making a change?
4. I have bills to pay and I need the security of my career
When I began my journey, I was single with a car payment and a mortgage, plus a very expensive traveling habit.
That security that you feel with your career and solid income is really just an illusion.
I reduced my wage and my hours at my corporate job, but was somehow able to adjust to the reduced income. We are pretty amazing at persevering and getting creative when we need to. I definitely made some sacrifices, however in looking at the big picture, they were minor in comparison to the payout I was experiencing in my fulfillment levels.
5. I’m too tired (AKA I’m too busy)
This is the boldest excuse of them all, and we have all used it to our advantage at one point or another.
The truth is, this just shows how committed (or not) you are to the result.
This is applicable to any goal, and if you are committed, you find the time and the energy to make it happen.
I have seen single mom’s able to start up their own successful business all on their own. And when I traveled to Bali, I went over 48 hours without sleep, somehow I managed to amp up the energy to head to the beach.
When we want something bad enough and are truly excited about the final result we are able to dig deep into our energy reserve and find a way to make it happen.
If you timing is the main issue for you, look at your daily life and see where you can make some adjustments in your life to accommodate your new adventure.
6. I know what I want to do, but I don’t know how to make money doing it
There are very few brand new ideas anymore, so use that to your advantage and see what other people are doing with similar passions.
I was so surprised when I started life coaching how many different types of coaching there are out there. There are business coaches, writing coaches, confidence coaches, marketing coaches, fitness coaches, and the list goes on.
Even with all of the coaches out there, no two are exactly alike that show up with the same life experience and knowledge to share.
So take a look around and see what you can find out from others with similar interests.
Who knows, you may even come up with that brand new creative idea that no one else has thought of yet.
7. I don’t have what it takes or enough experience
It is a vicious cycle.
“I don’t have enough experience because I can’t get a job. I can’t get a job because I have no experience.”
The best advice I ever received was “just start”.
It may never feel perfect or exactly like you are ready, but I don’t think anyone ever feels like they are ready.
It will come, and you will learn your lessons as you go.
8. It won’t work
The truth is, it may not work. But I can guarantee you it won’t if you don’t even try.
The experience may open you up to entire new world that you didn’t even imagine. When I began on this journey, I had no idea the people I would meet and the experiences it would lead to.
The beauty is, you can control when it starts and where it ends.
Just commit to taking the first step and open that door.
Do any of these excuses sound familiar to you?
If so, rest assured you are not alone. Now use these to recognize what you are resisting and why and allow yourself the chance to be stronger than the resistance.
|Jodie Hebbard is a certified life coach and career fulfillment coach. She works with clients from all over the world to help them get clear on their life purpose and break free from the golden handcuffs to start creating a life that they love by doing what they love.
After taking a spiritual sabbatical she decided to make some major life changes and start living life by her own rules. She left her successful career in business management and human resources after 11 years to pursue her passion and live her true calling in helping others live their dream.
Jodie is based in Calgary, Canada and is a travel enthusiast, animal lover, vegetarian and mom to her amazing rescue dog and travel companion, Chai.
Connect with her and view her signature life coaching programs online or on Facebook.