photo by Jenny Ingalls Nelson
Be strong. Buck up. Pull it together. Get over it.
These phrases are often told to people, and I couldn’t disagree more. Strength is so often defined as not showing emotion or saying everything is OK. I find this most true in men, but women are not immune.
I felt this way for a long time. I’d tell anyone that everything was fine, even when it most certainly was not. After all, I was the strong one, and that’s what I thought strong meant.
Then I started meeting people who showed “weakness”. They shed tears and everything wasn’t always OK. Honestly, it was uncomfortable for me at first, but gradually, my opinions changed. These people became some of the best examples of what I know know to be strength: having a soft heart in a cruel world.
What’s stronger than protecting your soft heart? Letting it get cold and hard is not strong and it deeply saddens me that so many people go through life that way.
There is strength in weakness, in vulnerability, in all of our cracks and imperfections. There’s power in not letting the world take away your softness.
My definition of courage closely resembles what some people would label as weakness, and I’m OK with that.
Thanks for being on this journey with me.
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