In the last year or so, I’ve had my fair share of personal and business lessons. Big ones, little ones, and many that were in between, but they all pale in comparison to the single biggest lesson I have learned so far and it is this:
On the journey to success, it’s best to keep your eyes on your path.
As a newbie, I jumped into my business with both feet and decided to allow my creative ideas for changing lives to guide me. I wasn’t all that interested in doing it the right way as much as I was committed to following my heart. (Incidentally this was the same thing I was teaching my clients.) My gut was my guide and if it felt fun, open, and expansive, I did it. And while that road was a little lonely starting out, I was hopeful that I would meet other like-minded souls on their own journey.
And I did…
About four months later I met a tribe of amazing women from all over the world. My tiny, entrepreneurial network was expanding and I couldn’t have been happier. I was exposed to new ideas, the business gurus, and so much information about building a thriving career I had no idea where to begin. And as this ever-growing group of incredible souls began to open up and share their own experiences and journeys, my eyes began to wander.
I began looking at what everyone else was doing and comparing myself and my journey to theirs. From the outside looking in, they all looked so sparkly and perfect. It seemed like they had it all figured out as they created amazing programs, gained new clients left and right, and made more money than I could ever imagine. My often star-struck eyes were darting back and forth between this strategy and that offer and I couldn’t help but feel bad about my own journey.
I kept thinking:
What am I doing wrong?
What am I missing?
How can I be more like that?
What’s the secret?
Instead of listening to my heart and feeling my way forward as I had been teaching my clients, I was distracted by the glitz and glamour that I perceived. I couldn’t help but feel like they had all the answers. If their calendar was filled to capacity then surely they knew the recipe for success and I had high hopes that by osmosis, I too would figure it out.
I was wrong.
The only thing that I figured out was that I was losing my confidence, my steam, my power, and the creative mojo I had when I began.
I allowed the expansion of my network to become the demise of my personal power.
I lost touch with what felt right for me and my business as I struggled to find the key to success. I was convinced that not only did they have it all, but they were doing things far better and faster than I was.
It took me a while but I finally came to realize that I was comparing apples to oranges and, in some cases, my Chapter 2 to their Chapter 22. I wasn’t being fair to my business, my clients, or myself. When I answered the call of my heart to take the leap into this work, I did it with the intention to be true to myself and to teach others to do the same.
As the old adage by Richard Bach goes: “We teach what we most need to learn.”
I knew then that the road to success wasn’t made up of one path with limited space, but instead individual paths with amazing experiences and lessons along the way.
On the other side of that lesson I now know the truth.
The truth is my path is mine and I can either allow myself to be distracted by what I perceive others are doing, or I can focus on my own stuff and live the life I know I am meant to have. The same goes for you.
If I could give a bit of advice to my pre-entrepreneur self it would be this:
Get on your journey and keep your eyes on your path. Be open to learning the skills, information and tips you need to succeed, but let go of what doesn’t feel right for you. Don’t allow yourself to get distracted by what others are doing or feel like you are less than another. Go. Dream. Do. And above all else follow your heart. Life is simply too short not to.
|Lamisha Serf-Walls is a Life Coach and Blind Spot Expert for women who are ready to live an amazing life on their own terms, but feel held back and frustrated in one particular area.
Her mission is to create a community of empowered, free flowing, lovers of life who live the life of their dreams with ease and inspire others to do the same.
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