Guest post by Laurainne Marshall
Last time I wrote a piece here it was about “My Journey of Music”
Well today ………the story continues but a different spin
Over the last 2 years I have learnt so many of life’s lessons and it is only really now that I can look back and say that all the “stuff” I was in the middle of – was just that “Life’s Lessons”.
When we are right in the middle of catastrophes and what I like to call “The yuk” a strong smokey haze just covers and hides any hint of positive and you feel like you are never going to sift through the garbage.
So I am going to share with you the life’s lessons I learnt – Some harder than others and most taken like a bad cough syrup – With that sour face 🙂
First life lesson – Friendship takes many forms
Over my time and as I get older I have come to value those friends that are good for me. A couple of years ago I met someone who I thought was going to be a lifelong friend, and during the early stages of this friendship it seemed perfect. They shared the same interests, they shared the same issues I was having, they even assimilated into my immediate and extended families with them befriending many of my close friends and family along the way.
But as time went on I started to see them for who they were, they were friends with me to suck the life out of me and manipulate and control. A friendship parasite or predator. Suffice to say when the friendship ended I blamed myself…..But the truth is it wasn’t about that.
So here is the first life lesson, look after and be grateful for those friendships that nurture you and never take them for granted. Pick the phone up, send a text, but let them know they mean the world to you.
Interestingly enough I have now had others come into my life – And they are much better for my soul :):)
Second Life Lesson – Perfection is right under your nose
I have been with my husband since I was 17. And for many years people would take bets on how quickly it would end. You see, we are yin and yang. He is the stability to my craziness, the rationality to my illogical nature and most of all the left brain to my right. I am sad to say – I took my partner for granted. You see he is always quietly walking beside me, always ready to pick up the pieces when I hit a brick wall. I will never take him for granted again and more importantly never compare myself and us to anyone else.
Third Life Lesson – Life is short
2 years ago I lost a friend to cancer. I threw myself and my little family in the thick of it, supporting where I could. And we wore that many many months after. My son who has a severe anxiety disorder took a very long time to come to terms with the fact that I was going to be around for as long as I could. Death is never easy for anyone to come to terms with – particularly a little person.
So my life lesson here is “Grab life and run”, live in the moment don’t look back. You can’t change the past and the future can always change. A very good friend of mine told me – Live your life like you would like your eulogy said.
Fourth Life Lesson – My Little of family of four.
I am blessed to have a 15 year old and 10 year old. 4 miscarriages throughout and a Dr that said I would never have kids (Don’t tell me I cant do something) and so many years later we have the complete little family.
What I learnt here is how important they are to me. I often throw myself and us into all kids of things – Mainly to help others. But there are times I need to stop and look after them and me. I need to protect, nurture and encourage these 3 beautiful souls…….I am so blessed to have them in my life and learn so many things from them.
Fifth life lesson – My evolution
Well the last 2 years have made me evolve in so many ways.
When I was in the middle of all of this I read so many great works. Maya Angelou, Women Who Run with Wolves – but although I was reading it, I wasn’t listening. I was filled with so much negativity and I guess “victim-itis”.
I am now a stronger woman. I see what all of this was meant to be – Life lessons to be learnt. The friend I lost, I don’t hate him, in fact, I am grateful for his presence in my life because I now realise what I have.
So many things to be grateful for – and life lessons are one of those.
I am still singing and belting out my tunes, getting in touch with the inner rock goddess. Loving my Size 20 and the big vocals it brings. But loving the fact I can do something I love…..and finally realising it’s all about the music nothing else.
I can do anything I put my mind to…..more than that………I am blessed with a beautiful life filled with so many riches.
|Laurainne Marshall is a 43 year old Mum, Teacher and Muso who lives in Sydney, Australia.
She is constantly in search of spiritual awareness and happiness and her motto…..grab life and run.