Post by Jo Anna Rothman.
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Step 1. Listen. To yourself. To all of the parts. Don’t ignore the cranky pieces. The young ones. The silent aspects that may only give voice through feelings or aches. Listen to every bit of you. Give them the time and space they have been longing for. Each loud voice in your head has something to say. The more they are told to stop, to go way, to take a long tropical vacation, the more they long to share. The louder they scream in their own special way. You can listen without following, without agreeing. You can hand them the microphone or give them the pen. Allow them the space in your mind to finally have their say. These are not aliens that have invaded your brain. They are you. Give them what they need.
Step 2. Love. Any piece that feels separate from the great, grand wholeness of who you really are is looking for one thing: love. Love is what heals. It is what integrates. It is absolute truth of who you are. When you take the time to love any and every aspect of you, you give them the chance to remember that they too are love. They can learn that they are not separate creatures from who you are…they are just pretending. Love allows them to know that it is safe to open their eyes. To begin to let go of the story and come back home. To love these parts, I invite you to close your eyes and allow them to come present. Feel them in your body. In your mind. See what form, shape or color they take. Then, as if they were a baby, imagine holding them in your arms. Love them. Without cause or reason. Just love them because they are a part of you and are therefore deserving of gorgeousness of life.
Step 3. Play. The best friendships are a lot fun. So go create some. Do things that please your inner child. Your inner critic. That part that makes your throat hurt every time you get ready to try something new (or is that just me). Ask them what they want to do. Ask yourself! Then go do it. Take yourself out on date. Watch a silly movie. Read a picture book. Go for a hike. Do what works and do it often. Go play!!
Step 4. Repeat. This may be the most important step. It’s easy to run through the first three hoping for a quick fix for any distance or separation you may feel. The connection, the love…they make you feel better. But without the gift of maintenance, the friendship will go the way of castles made of sand. This work is not about a means to an end. It is about the opportunity to recognize your Electric Creative Wholeness over and over again. To love as deeply as possible. To dance through your amazing human experience with tremendous grace and kickass music. It is a process. One that never ends. One that the glorious, authentic essence of who you are must engage in over and over. It gets easier. It gets better. And it keeps getting a lot more fun. I promise!
|Jo Anna Rothman, MA is an intuitive coach and facilitator of The Receiving Project. She revels in assisting people in falling in love with their lives. She is committed to living a life full of pleasure, purpose and enthusiasm. And perhaps most important, she knows the secret to the perfect s’more.|
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